Read the following passage carefully.
1. What would we do without humor? How would we enjoy talks with others if we did not use humor to invite a smile or a laugh? And how would we manage the times when we feel sad and alone?
2. With humor we lighten up each day, and we find common ground with others. We build healthy relationships with others by knowing what to say and to do that helps, and what hinders, a conversation. Humor often takes us to the edge of uncertainty when we exaggerate, or tease others to make our point. When humor is successful, we build trust and cooperation. We discover that we are not alone, we learn to accept our mistakes, and we look for the good in others and in our selves. Most importantly, we create common ground. However, when we lose our sense of humor, we often get critical or defensive, and, we often get critical of ourselves for what was said, and how it was said. .
3. Humor is an essential skill needed to communicate well with others. A few well chosen words get the attention of others and make a serious point without their getting defensive. Whether we prefer to be the centre of attention or shy and quiet, humor can be adjusted to suit our personality.
4. The challenge for everyone is to become more aware of how to add humor, and when to avoid it. Too much humor, like too much spice often annoys others. Humor that is perceived as insensitive often leads others to shut down, or become argumentative. But when we each maintain our sense of humor, we look for the good in others and in ourselves. To ensure that our humor is welcomed by others, we need to combine our humor with speaking clearly and listening effectively.
5. Have you ever noticed that successful individuals often use self-deprecating humor to humble themselves, without putting themselves down? These individuals understand that every person has strengths and weaknesses and that selfdeprecating humor invites others to feel more confident and equal. Having humor helps us keep our perspective, stay responsive to others, and resolve differences. Do you already have some things that you say to diffuse tension? Words like “At times like this, my uncle used to say…” can help the conversation to become less confrontational. 6. If you can’t think of a humorous comment that will be helpful, you can try looking for clarification by mirroring back their words and clarifying their point. Assume that there is always something that you can find to appreciate when you are looking for common ground. Focus on preventing an argument. Remember, humor is often not the best choice to handle conflict.
7. Opportunities to add a touch of humor happen all of the time. In December when I visited my friend Tim in the hospital, I came wearing antlers from the Dollar Store. And when I was accepted into the graduate program at University of Waterloo, I wrote my acceptance letter as a poem. In each situation my small change from the everyday stirred others to smile, and expect positive conversations in the future.
8. Much of our humor comes from reconnecting to our playful inner child. For many of us, it only takes a playful voice tone, wearing a funny hat, or holding a stuffed toy to get started. Take a risk. Add a bit more humor, and do it in the way that is right for you. (By Leslie Rose Seminars)
I. Answer the following questions as briefly as possible.
(a) What is the challenge for everyone regarding humor?
(b) How can one ensure that humor is welcomed by others?
(c) What do successful individuals understand?
(d) How do people react when they perceive humor as insensitive?
(e) Why did the writer write his acceptance letter as a poem?
II. Find words from the passage which mean the same as:
(a) obstruct (para 2)
(b) overstate (para 2)
(c) viewpoint (para 5)
